athanata was right! Gretta Cole is an excellent place to get a facial.
Last night my dad called me. I did not get to the phone in time since I was busy getting drunk and happy at Tracy’s. In his message, he told me that he and Anne had planned to get together sometime soon, and “Anne had suggested” in the next two weeks since my mom is in Switzerland, and would I like to join them, and could I please call back with Anne’s cell phone number because he “didn’t dare” call her at my mom’s house and leave a message.
I cannot stand this. The deception, sneaking around behind my mom’s back, sickens me. I don’t think it’s RIGHT that my mother forbid Anne and Will from seeing my father: I can see her point of view, of course, but the fact remains that he is their father, they are adults, and have a right to pursue a relationship with him, judge him for themselves. Anne is terrified that my mom will disown her if she sees my dad, and so she is doing it behind my mother’s back, and that disgusts me. I refuse to take any part in this affair.
The sad thing is, I DO want to see my dad. I DO care about him, and miss him, no matter how self-betraying that is — he clearly doesn’t give a shit about me so why should I bother? But I will not condone these circumstances. It is pathetic that he is so weak. Aren’t any of us, his four children, worth standing up for? If he wants to see us, why can’t he proclaim that instead of cowering away from my mother, instead of encouraging my headstrong little sister to be dishonest and do wrong.
I am going to call him, and I am going to tell him my opinion of this, and then I think it is likely that he will not speak to me again. He only speaks to me now and then (that is maybe twice a year)because he sees me as a tool, someone who will give him information, someone he can meet and pretend for a little while that he’s a real father. Once I tell him I can’t stand his dishonesty, he will consider that I have turned into my mother, and he will abandon any hope of me completely. It’s a sorry price to pay.
I’m not not on her side. I just hate lies.
yay for gretta cole!
i’m sorry about all this family crap. my dad also had a ridiculous family situation. his parents divorced when he was in college (he was 18, his sister was 24 i believe). his dad promptly remarried, and had no further contact with his two adult kids. none. nothing. notta. started a whole new family and never had any dealings with the old one. i just can’t imagine doing that with children who you friggin’ raised their whole lives!